Note: The first few paragraphs of the transcript are not a word for word transcription. Damn my occasional on-camera ad-libbing!
I don't even know where to begin to
start.
As far as vaginas go, I don't think
I've ever heard that word uttered so many times in so short a period
in my life. I think her 30 minute keynote speech might rival a
gynecology textbook as far as mentions of vaginas go. At one point,
she even came out and admitted she thinks with her vagina. Don't
believe me?
"I'm gonna tell you something.
Deep down, in my heart, in my soul, in my vagina, I know the women's
spring is here."
I suppose this would be one of those
"women's ways of knowing" discussed in feminist ethics,
then.
Later on, she drops this bomb.
"You might even worship their
vaginas!"
And there I am, in a room full of
cheering, applauding women, wondering what the hell planet I'm on.
These are grown women, for fuck sake. Anyway.
After showing us a video of herself
giving a speech on the steps of congress in Lansing Michigan (because
who doesn't love seeing oneself on video bellowing the word "vagina"
in front of an adoring crowd?) she got down to the nitty gritty.
And that nitty gritty was, of course,
rape. With Eve, you know it's gonna be vaginas or rape, right? The
entire speech was a paean to female victimhood, a celebration of all
the ways women and women alone are subjugated and subordinated and
disempowered in society.
I'm going to link to the video in the
lowbar for those who have the intestinal fortitude, and ask that you
please resist commenting on NOW's channel since it won't do any good.
For those who don't feel they can stomach 37 minutes of vaginas and
rape, I'll give you a summary:
About midway through, Eve shared the
story of Jean, a woman in the Congo who'd been the victim of rape as
a weapon of war and economic conquest. If Jean had a husband or
brother or son, we don't hear about him. Her village was attacked by
militants, and she'd been raped. She sought help for her injuries at
an NGO active in the area, and received surgery and treatment, after
which she returned to her village only to be tied to a tree by these
militants and repeatedly raped for a period of two months. When she
was released, she found her way to another NGO, and received nine
surgeries to repair the damage to her body. It was then that Ensler,
founder of the 85 million dollar V-day charity, found her recovering
from her surgeries and her trauma, and asked her what she wanted.
What this woman wanted was a village
where women and girls could be safe from the violence. This village,
City of Joy, was built in part by Eve Ensler's charity and outfitted
by google, and is a place where women and girls can be safe and heal,
learn, grow and become empowered--in her words, to become the future
leaders of the DRC.
Now please, don't get me wrong. I have
a great deal of sympathy for that woman, just as I would for anyone
who had suffered what she did. I really do. It horrifies me, when I
think of what human beings can do to each other. And if I hadn't
swallowed a red pill a long time ago, I'd have probably been thinking
exactly what every woman in that room was thinking. As it was,
knowing what I know now about such things, all I could think as Eve
was talking about the plight of women in the Congo was, if it's that
bad for women and girls, I can't even imagine how it must be for men
and boys.
There aren't many mainstream venues
discussing male victims of wartime sexual violence, but I did stumble
across a recent documentary on BBC radio, and I've collected a few
other sources I'll link in the lowbar.
The BBC documentary reporter
interviewed a Congolese man whose family was attacked by uniformed
men in 2008. He was bound hand and foot and beaten for 3 hours,
during which he watched as they killed his whole family, including
his two children, before cutting off their heads. Then they left him
for dead. In 2010, he was attacked again by men in uniform. He
believes they targeted him specifically after discovering he was
still alive. They took him blindfolded and bound in a van, to a
barracks with other prisoners.
There, he was sexually tortured and
raped, for 4 or 5 days. He says he was semi-conscious for much of it,
the pain was so great. Then they loaded him into a van, drove him out
into the bush, and raped him again. He asked them to kill him. They
laughed and left him lying there.
When a passing car found him, he asked
them to drive him to Kimpala, Uganda, where thousands of displaced
people from DRC seek refuge.
Other male victims have been forcibly
circumcised, raped with objects like screwdrivers, castrated, or had
their genitalia completely amputated.
Unlike the woman Eve Ensler spoke of,
there's no heartwarming story of triumph for any of these men to
share. Not even one surgery, let alone nine, no City of Joy built for
him and furnished with computers provided by Google, no armed guards
patrolling his safe village to keep him from harm, no schools
provided through the charity of the more fortunate to help him get
back on his feet and make his way in life.
In fact, when interviewed, he said his
injuries are not healed, and he would rather die than live.
According to the Journal of the
American Medical Association, 22% of all men in the Congo, compared
with 30% of women, have experienced sexual violence as a weapon of
war. Considering the higher rates of general violent victimization of
noncombatant men and boys in conflicts like that in the Congo (at
least 2 to 1), the numbers of men who experienced sexual violence
before being killed by their rapists can't be determined by the
study.
The men who survive almost never speak
of their experiences to anyone, because under the law, they are
guilty of a crime--the crime of homosexuality--and can face severe
punishment. They don't typically disclose to family, due to fears of
abandonment that are all too justified. One employee of the Refugee
Law Project says it's common for a woman, upon discovering her
husband has been raped, to pack up the children and leave him. "Is
this a woman? Is it a man? If he can be raped, who is protecting me?"
According to Dr. Lynn Lawry of Harvard
medical school, reaction within the academic, political and
humanitarian communities to the JAMA's study on male rape in the
Congo has ranged from shock to puzzlement to controversy to anger.
She wasn't prepared for the level of hostility to their findings on
the part of humanitarian NGOs. Not anger on behalf of male victims,
but anger over the public being made aware of them.
The findings defy the cultural
narrative--both that of patriarchy and of feminism. Dr. Lawry herself
was shocked not just by the prevalence of male rape in the Congo, but
at the level of female perpetration--some 40% of the sexual violence
against women in the Congo, and 10% of that against men, was
perpetrated by women.
The UN, the law, traditionalism and
feminism all view rape as something that only impacts women and girls
and something that is only perpetrated by men. According to Lara
Stemple of the U of California's Health and Human Rights Project, out
of more than 4000 NGOs reviewed, only 3% even mentioned the
experience of male victims, and none mentioned them as more than a
passing reference. I have to wonder if any of those NGOs mentioned
female perpetrators at all.
And while Dr. Lawry sees the resistance
of NGOs to address male rape victims as originating in a fear that
resources will be diverted from their chosen issue, that male victims
will take too big a piece of a finite pie, I think it's deeper and
more complicated than that.
Feminist activism may have brought the
issue of rape into the focus of human rights bodies in the 80s and
90s, but they weren't telling us anything we didn't already think we
knew. Our ideas of rape, in whatever context it occurs, have always
existed within a male perpetrator, female victim model. Rape of women
has always been acknowledged as a weapon of war and political
advantage, a means to demoralize the enemy and destroy communities.
Propaganda during the early decades of the last century clearly
demonstrates that it was a fear pervasive enough to be exploited, by
convincing men to enlist, or by demonizing the opposition.
In her speech, Even Ensler calls rape
"femicide", a systematic method of destroying women. And
while the rape of women is a horrible thing, rape doesn't destroy
only women. The systematic rape of women undermines their
relationships and community. The systematic rape of men annihilates
everything we believe about what men are and should be, and
completely uproots them from their roles in family and community. In
a traditional society, male rape tells people that ANYONE can be
abused in this way, and that those who have always been seen as the
protectors of women and children can no longer be depended on in that
way, that the defenders of everyone can't defend even themselves.
A woman who's been raped is a damaged
woman. A man who's been raped is no longer a man.
Eve Ensler claims that women's bodies
are the landscape upon which all of human conflict and avarice is
fought, but she can only believe this because the men upon whom these
same terrors are wreaked are silent--the silence of death or the
silence of social isolation.
She talks about the hundreds of
thousands of women and girls: 2 year olds raped to death, women who
are incontinent, leaking urine and feces through their wounds, the
walking wounded riddled with infection and wracked with pain.
30% of women in the Congo. But no
mention of the 22% of men--hundreds of thousands--who suffer the
exact same things without voices and without help or healing.
Feminist theorists were preaching to
the misinformed choir when they portrayed rape as at best, a
byproduct and at worst the primary motive, of traditional social
organization and male sexuality, and cast women solely as the victims
of this form of "toxic masculinity" and male predation that
exists to subjugate women. That there was ANYONE, in academia, the
law or wider society, who believed feminist ideas about rape were
revolutionary or novel or ground-breaking remains to me, one of the
biggest mysteries in existence. It's the same bullshit people have
always believed, and it's just as miguided.
Feminist theory in this area dovetails
perfectly with our instinctive perceptions and expectations of
gender, and traditional cultural and sociological memes that cast men
as moral agents capable only of performing good and evil, and women
as moral patients or objects, capable only of absorbing good or evil.
Feminist thought concerning sexual violence was never innovative--it
was always same shit, different pile.
Still, when you think of how feminists
utilized these theoretical models of rape and domestic violence as
supporting evidence for their overarching theory of how society
works, it's pretty clear why someone like Eve Ensler would be
resistant to acknowledging both male victims and female perpetrators
of sexual violence. This will be especially true of wartime sexual
violence, since everyone, especially feminists, views bloody conflict
as a solely male domain.
And while this view is certainly not
just a problem with feminism--after all, it wasn't feminism that
passed laws in the Congo that punish the victim of a male rape as
harshly as the perpetrator--feminist theory seems woefully inadequate
to address any human phenomenon absent the lens of the male agent,
female object dichotomy.
Ensler's speech at the NOW conference
only hammered that nail home for me. Addressing the gathered women as
"vaginas" and the male audience members as "vagina-friendly
men" was freaky enough--referring to the men as men, but the
women as body parts?--but when she spoke of what's going on in the
Congo, her every word reinforced the idea that men act and women are
acted upon, that the sum of woman is only what is done to or for her,
and the sum of man is only what he does to or for others.
What are men to Eve Ensler? They are
the evil white westerners out to rape Africa of its resources. They
are the evil militants who brutalize and murder innocent villagers.
They are the unwilling tools of those evil men--forced at gunpoint to
rape their mothers and daughters, not to be mentioned by her again.
They are the doctors performing the surgeries that saved that poor
woman, the people who built the safe village where women and girls
could escape sexual violence, the guards who undoubtedly march the
perimeter of that village, and the people who supplied them with
computers, internet and a shot at an education. The only mention of
male victims in her entire speech was still framed in the context of
perpetration--a father forced to rape his daughter, or the son his
mother. Once she was done conveying what he did, it was like he
didn't exist to her anymore.
The men are the doers, in Eve Ensler's
narrative. The women are merely done to, or done for.
How the fuck is this challenging our
gendered views on anything? How are Eve and her ilk going to
overthrow patriarchy when all they ever seem to do is preach it?
And how will anything ever change when
the people who are supposedly defying the status quo are only
entrenching it ever deeper? Feminism is the privileged voice on
gender issues, and its as silent about the suffering of sexually
victimized men and the actions of female rapists in the Congo, as the
staunchest trad-con, because feminism's entire body of work rests on
the necessity of those men and those women not existing.
At present, there are no agencies
providing funding to male victims of rape in the Congo. Dutch Oxfam
has even gone so far as to threaten to pull its funding if too much
is spent on the few male victims who do seek assistance. Other human
rights advocates, few in number, complain that the focus of the UN
and the media, on women as a monolithic victim-class and men as a
monolithic perpetrator class, undermines not only their effectiveness
in helping and protecting male victims, but in bringing female
perpetrators of human rights violations to justice.
When
Adam Jones examined the activities of five of the “female
architects of the Rwandan genocide”, he noted they not only
participated in selecting thousands of Tutsi men and boys to be
killed, they were often the ones delivering death. Yet according to
author Tim Goldich:
"These
cases of female leaders represent only a small part of the story of
women’s participation in the genocide. At the grassroots, “very
often, groups of women ululated their men into the ‘action’ that
would result in the death of thousands of innocent men, women and
children, many of them their own neighbours.” Their role was
dominant in the post-massacre looting and stripping of bodies, which
often involved climbing over corpses (and those still alive and
moaning in agony) piled thigh-high in the confined spaces in which
many Tutsis met their end. Frequently these women assisted in
administering the coup de grĂ¢ce to those clinging to life."
If
Eve Ensler believes women are uniquely equipped to lead without
descending into violence, she needs to open her eyes.
The model with
which we as humans view gender makes us so reluctant to not only feel
compassion for male victims of crime, hardship and suffering, but
also to deliver accountability to women who do horrible things.
Just like
Taslima Nasreen's childish narrative, "Men throw acid on us, but
women still love men," ignores the 30% of acid attack victims
who are men and boys and the significant number of perpetrators who
are women, Eve Ensler's tale of Jean from the Congo ignores a very
great deal of suffering and marginalization, simply because in her
mind, all women are victims and that is all they are. And all men are
is how they affect women.
And I'm sorry,
but Eve Ensler, in her call for women to rise up--a billion of them
worldwide next February 14th, to represent the 1 out of 3 women
globally who will be raped or beaten in their lifetimes--is
apparently thinking with her vagina. Because I'm almost positive
she's never even thought to even ask the question, "how many men
will be raped or beaten in their lifetimes?" for comparison. If
she had, I wonder if she'd like the answer.
She really
doesn't get the idea that humans--men and women--are in this
together, and that the warp and weft created by our equilibrium is
what society is built on. To her, men exist only to help or to harm
women, and that means a man who's been raped is of no use to anyone,
least of all her.
Eve Ensler is as much a slave to her
hominid programming and traditional views of gender as anyone else--a
slave to the idea that men do while women are done. And while she
noted that since spending time in the Congo she's become fully
radicalized, becoming a radical proponent of traditional ways of
viewing gender doesn't make her any more special than Rush Limbaugh.
But I think the most cynical and
stomach-turning part of the entire speech was the way she drew
equivalence between the struggles and suffering of women in the
Congo, a place where there is a war on EVERYONE, and the
inconveniences of women in the west who are oppressed by lack of free
birth control. It's all one big war on women, don'tcha know? And men?
If they aren't harming women, or being useful to women, they don't
exist at all.
Thank you for your insightful and informative blog and YouTube channel posts. Outstanding posts. Could you site your figure and statistic sources to save us research time?
I am so tired of the hatred that is directed at me constantly because I am a straight white male living in a city full of narrowminded liberals (how's that for a modern oxymoron). I'm tired of being marginalized and demonized from the pulpits of Unitarian-Universalist churches (luckily not all, just the ones here in town). I'm just plain tired. I now ruthlessly crush any impulse I have to help women in trouble, they're on their own.
Look, this is all terrible, but WHAT THE FUCK CAN BE DONE HERE?
Is there a petition I can sign or promote to get NGOs to recognise the problem of male rape in the Congo and create programs to help them? Is there somewhere I can donate?
If not, can you organise this? You've got a great platform to help these people.
I'm a newcomer to your blog and videos and the "Are the Vaginas in the House?" video was the first one I saw that affected me deeply. I know this won't come as a shock but I had no idea about the percentage of men who were victims of sexual violence in the Congo. In spite of the fact that I live in the UK and you heard the documentary on BBC Radio, men's issues are as underreported and trivialised here as they are Stateside.
Like RJ Astruc, I'm keen to know if there is anything that can be done about this. I'm sure you can relate when I say how helpless and frustrated I feel about not just the use of sexual violence against men but its underrepresentation and lack of assistance by NGOs.
I have more to say but it can be saved for another blog post. All I'll add is this: I'm glad the MRM finally has someone to calmly and logically deconstruct the typical feminist arguments with intelligent counter-arguments. For a long time, I've come across many an articles and blog post on relatively mainstream websites that support viewpoints that are sexist against men. I'm relieved to find a counterpart blog for the MRM that appeals to me so much and hope you continue for a long, long time. You do excellent work.
75% of all refugees are women & children. In the third world where it is common to have 4 & more children this would suggest that the typical family is 6+ people. Therefore adult males (the fathers) composed one sixth of the population, about 15%, as do female adults. If we assume that 50% of all children are male. Then if adult males account for 25% of all refugees + the 33% of male children, then we can see that males roughly account for 58% of refugees, the majority. At 25% adult males are 66% more likely to be refugees than females.
That's a lot of words and a lot of vitriol for nothing. Instead of slapping women down, how about you try raising men up. You could start with the 30 seconds of googling that it too to find links to these organizations which help all genders.
http://www.unhcr.org/cgi-bin/texis/vtx/home (Help for refugees of all genders.)
http://www.refugeelawproject.org/ (Helps men in Uganda)
http://www.innocenceproject.org/ (Helps exonerate innocent prisoners, the majority of which are men.)
Like I said, 30 seconds but you're too infatuated with the sound of your own voice to even do that much. MRAs - So much whinging, so little action.
PS: The next step is an actual donation but don't worry, nobody expects you to go that far.
I recently started following your youtube channel and blog, and I have never encountered anyone whose ideas and opinions seem to match my own so completely. Thank you for taking the time to provide such thoughtful analysis of these issues. I can't wait to investigate more of your work.
Thank you for your writing. Both my friend and I were raped by the same woman when we were younger. She would attend parties and purposefully not drink meanwhile attaching herself to a drunk man. After waiting until we were too drunk (being young men that's not too hard) she would escort us to a room or some other secluded area. I remember coming to nude from the waist down, in my bed, with an unfamiliar condom wrapper laying on the floor next to me. It didn't take much detective work to find out what had happened.
I kept it to myself because, being a man, I should be happy that I had sex and I tried to convince myself that I should shrug it off. It wasn't until I was talking to a friend of mine that he happened to bring up the fact that he had been taken advantage of by a woman. When he told me who, my blood went cold. I immediately told him that I had a similar experience. He couldn't believe it and then told me I wasn't the first he had told. I was, however, the first to not mock him for calling it what it was: rape.
Owning up to the fact that I had this experience has been difficult because of the stigma of being a man that was raped by a woman. When I tell a woman that I had been raped I am told that I am lying or I am berated by them. I have stopped sharing my experience because I cannot handle the hypocrisy any more. If a man made fun of a woman who was sharing her experience of being raped he would be crucified by both sexes.
Thank you again for giving voice to those of us who cannot.
Yeah, Westerners love to project their own concerns onto Africa. They do this very zestfully. So long as Africa can be made to their own problems and disturbances, they are interested in it. Apart from this, they don't care and don't seem to understand very much.
Consider Facebook. I have a large number of black Zimbabwean friends there. (They are okay with being called black and calling me white. That is how it is done over there.)
I also have quite a few liberal friends from the US and elsewhere. These like to talk a lot about how social justice must be meted out, but they don't actively befriend these African guys. I consider this to be more than a bit fishy.
From my armchair here in UK and watching the TV film & series references to male rape in the US penal system where is appears to be accepted as part & parcel of the penal process, I am surprised anyone within that lump of land is unaware of the issue. If Hollywood thinks its OK for film, and hell they were coy about homosexuality and racial equality for years, then I tend to think that its part fo the mainstream. I recall a few years ago a documentary about a US former prisoner who was trying to sue to get compensation from getting Aids having been raped in prison. The sexual assault of men by men and to a lesser extent women, and its no less hard for men to summon the courage to report it to the police than women. Yet the activists demanding resources and protection for rape victims seems exclusively interested in women. I really do wonder how we can ever have gender equality if champions for change continue to protest exclusively for one section of society.
This was Rudyard Kipling's comment about the activities of Afghan women on the battlefields of the 19th C
When you're wounded and left on Afghanistan's plains and the women come out to cut up what remains Jest roll to your rite an' blowout your brains An' go to your Gawd like a soldier.
Nice ladies who mutilate the wounded & dying in a manner that a soldier would rather commit suicide than experience it.
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All comments are welcome here. I refuse to censor points of view that differ from my own.
I recognize that I may be challenging the deep-seated beliefs of some people, and perhaps stirring up emotions in others. However, I would ask:
- if you care to respond to anything that I have said, please do not simply link to or quote some statistic. Do not simply regurgitate things you have been told are true. Think about what I am saying. Respond with an argument. Offer something from your personal observations, and explain to me how you feel your statistic is connected to your experience.
- If you wish to be part of a discussion, try not to dismiss what I or a another commenter says out of hand. Yes, that means that some lines of thought or ideologies may not stand up to scrutiny (perhaps even my own).
- Remember, ad hominem attacks diminish everyone involved. If you want to criticize anything, do so passionately and directly - but debate is about attacking ideas, not people.
Really appreciate your comments.
ReplyDeleteITs hard to understand why such seeming obvious facts as you discuss are missed by the MSM and most people, but they ARE.
Very glad you are able to articulate these issues so well.
Women have won many a freedom too far, and are undermining the pillars of their happiness by their actions towards men.
As always, GWW - consider it shared around on all my main profiles! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for your insightful and informative blog and YouTube channel posts. Outstanding posts. Could you site your figure and statistic sources to save us research time?
ReplyDeleteI am so tired of the hatred that is directed at me constantly because I am a straight white male living in a city full of narrowminded liberals (how's that for a modern oxymoron). I'm tired of being marginalized and demonized from the pulpits of Unitarian-Universalist churches (luckily not all, just the ones here in town). I'm just plain tired. I now ruthlessly crush any impulse I have to help women in trouble, they're on their own.
ReplyDeleteI really hate the society I'm now living in.
Look, this is all terrible, but WHAT THE FUCK CAN BE DONE HERE?
ReplyDeleteIs there a petition I can sign or promote to get NGOs to recognise the problem of male rape in the Congo and create programs to help them? Is there somewhere I can donate?
If not, can you organise this? You've got a great platform to help these people.
This a well-written and heart-breaking article. Thank you, I think.
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ReplyDeleteHey GirlWritesWhat,
ReplyDeleteI'm a newcomer to your blog and videos and the "Are the Vaginas in the House?" video was the first one I saw that affected me deeply. I know this won't come as a shock but I had no idea about the percentage of men who were victims of sexual violence in the Congo. In spite of the fact that I live in the UK and you heard the documentary on BBC Radio, men's issues are as underreported and trivialised here as they are Stateside.
Like RJ Astruc, I'm keen to know if there is anything that can be done about this. I'm sure you can relate when I say how helpless and frustrated I feel about not just the use of sexual violence against men but its underrepresentation and lack of assistance by NGOs.
I have more to say but it can be saved for another blog post. All I'll add is this: I'm glad the MRM finally has someone to calmly and logically deconstruct the typical feminist arguments with intelligent counter-arguments. For a long time, I've come across many an articles and blog post on relatively mainstream websites that support viewpoints that are sexist against men. I'm relieved to find a counterpart blog for the MRM that appeals to me so much and hope you continue for a long, long time. You do excellent work.
75% of all refugees are women & children. In the third world where it is common to have 4 & more children this would suggest that the typical family is 6+ people. Therefore adult males (the fathers) composed one sixth of the population, about 15%, as do female adults. If we assume that 50% of all children are male. Then if adult males account for 25% of all refugees + the 33% of male children, then we can see that males roughly account for 58% of refugees, the majority. At 25% adult males are 66% more likely to be refugees than females.
DeleteThat's a lot of words and a lot of vitriol for nothing. Instead of slapping women down, how about you try raising men up. You could start with the 30 seconds of googling that it too to find links to these organizations which help all genders.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.unhcr.org/cgi-bin/texis/vtx/home (Help for refugees of all genders.)
http://www.refugeelawproject.org/ (Helps men in Uganda)
http://www.innocenceproject.org/ (Helps exonerate innocent prisoners, the majority of which are men.)
Like I said, 30 seconds but you're too infatuated with the sound of your own voice to even do that much. MRAs - So much whinging, so little action.
PS: The next step is an actual donation but don't worry, nobody expects you to go that far.
I recently started following your youtube channel and blog, and I have never encountered anyone whose ideas and opinions seem to match my own so completely. Thank you for taking the time to provide such thoughtful analysis of these issues. I can't wait to investigate more of your work.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your writing. Both my friend and I were raped by the same woman when we were younger. She would attend parties and purposefully not drink meanwhile attaching herself to a drunk man. After waiting until we were too drunk (being young men that's not too hard) she would escort us to a room or some other secluded area. I remember coming to nude from the waist down, in my bed, with an unfamiliar condom wrapper laying on the floor next to me. It didn't take much detective work to find out what had happened.
ReplyDeleteI kept it to myself because, being a man, I should be happy that I had sex and I tried to convince myself that I should shrug it off. It wasn't until I was talking to a friend of mine that he happened to bring up the fact that he had been taken advantage of by a woman. When he told me who, my blood went cold. I immediately told him that I had a similar experience. He couldn't believe it and then told me I wasn't the first he had told. I was, however, the first to not mock him for calling it what it was: rape.
Owning up to the fact that I had this experience has been difficult because of the stigma of being a man that was raped by a woman. When I tell a woman that I had been raped I am told that I am lying or I am berated by them. I have stopped sharing my experience because I cannot handle the hypocrisy any more. If a man made fun of a woman who was sharing her experience of being raped he would be crucified by both sexes.
Thank you again for giving voice to those of us who cannot.
Yeah, Westerners love to project their own concerns onto Africa. They do this very zestfully. So long as Africa can be made to their own problems and disturbances, they are interested in it. Apart from this, they don't care and don't seem to understand very much.
ReplyDeleteConsider Facebook. I have a large number of black Zimbabwean friends there. (They are okay with being called black and calling me white. That is how it is done over there.)
I also have quite a few liberal friends from the US and elsewhere. These like to talk a lot about how social justice must be meted out, but they don't actively befriend these African guys. I consider this to be more than a bit fishy.
From my armchair here in UK and watching the TV film & series references to male rape in the US penal system where is appears to be accepted as part & parcel of the penal process, I am surprised anyone within that lump of land is unaware of the issue. If Hollywood thinks its OK for film, and hell they were coy about homosexuality and racial equality for years, then I tend to think that its part fo the mainstream.
ReplyDeleteI recall a few years ago a documentary about a US former prisoner who was trying to sue to get compensation from getting Aids having been raped in prison.
The sexual assault of men by men and to a lesser extent women, and its no less hard for men to summon the courage to report it to the police than women. Yet the activists demanding resources and protection for rape victims seems exclusively interested in women.
I really do wonder how we can ever have gender equality if champions for change continue to protest exclusively for one section of society.
Great and powerful video. I love your critical view on these issues.
ReplyDeleteIt would almost seem that Feminism IS the so-called Patriarchy by the way they preach these ideas
ReplyDeleteThis was Rudyard Kipling's comment about the activities of Afghan women on the battlefields of the 19th C
ReplyDeleteWhen you're wounded and left on Afghanistan's plains
and the women come out to cut up what remains
Jest roll to your rite an' blowout your brains
An' go to your Gawd like a soldier.
Nice ladies who mutilate the wounded & dying in a manner that a soldier would rather commit suicide than experience it.
Thanks, this is provocative.
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